Living in the sprawl
Dead shopping malls rise like mountains beyond mountains
And there’s no end in sight
I need the darkness, someone cut out the lights
Sprawl 2 (Mountains Beyond Mountains) by Arcade Fire
Heard this at Hard Rock Cafe yesterday. It has been a long long time since a new song hits me and I just go “wow, I have to know the name of this song”. The last two songs that really wowed me were Seasons Of Love from RENT the Musical and Linger by The Cranberries, but those were 6/10 on the wow scale while this, this is easily a 9. I’m going to listen to this on repeat the whole day till I get sick of it, after that I’ll check out their whole album.
Was at Hard Rock yesterday because all the army regulars recently got their performance bonus and they wanted to give a treat to all the NSFs in HQ Transport. Free food, half day, I have a very privileged army life.
Was thinking about my friend’s relationship problems while walking back from Ghim Moh after my morning run. A lot of my guy friends come to me for advice and I like talking to them. I used to categorise three main issues that will come up during a relationship, any other issues are insignificant. Mainly they are: sex, religion, family. Sex being views on sex, sex before marriage etc. Religion be it both from different religions and one has to convert etc. And lastly family, when you date or marry a girl / boy, you date or marry their entire family, the family’s problems, happiness, everything. Now a fourth issue has come up which I never thought so much about because I don’t really care who earns more or who stays at home to take care of the kid and that is ego.
I thought the solution would be simply to put your ego down. But for some men, they are used to people listening to them, following them their whole lives. Alpha male. What if one day in the future your wife earns more than you and during a quarrel asks you to back down with “who earns more?”. Some people really cannot put their ego down.
We also talked about the right one. Lets say out of 100 people, 90 would be incompatible, 9 would be good but there is only 1 perfect fit. So how would you know that the one you are dating now is the perfect fit, what if you were dating one of the 90 or one of the 9? So is the solution to keep dating person after person until you find the right one? What if you search your whole life but end up alone? I think a relationship is something you build on, you love that person irregardless of the possibility that there may be better ones out there because if you keep searching, you’ll lose yourself.